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Common sense isn't common....

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Now, I am one who appreciates good old common sense.
I am a thinking man/husband and the truth is so simple. Common sense isn't common. That is very true in society today.

We like to complicate things. If something seems too simple,
we think it can't possibly be effective. And the pure and
simple truth is that nature has given us what we need to
keep our bodies healthy and well.

And to mutilate and destroy the body in any way under the
guise of attempting to heal it makes no sense at all. I am not a practitioner or a scientist, but I am a creature of nature, and I have learned to live according to natural laws.

First you have to decide to accept responsibility for your
health and understand that you have the authority to choose
what you are going to take into your life.

So what are the things that are going to build your health?

THE TWELVE BUILDING BLOCKS OF HEALTH:

1. The Human Mind is Ultimately the Most Important Building
Block to Health and Well-being.

We showed earlier, …

Happy Birthday BabyGirl ....Sweet 16th

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My Babygirl has become of age today...by definition a young person transition from childhood to adulthood. The age at which this transition takes place varies in society, as does the nature of the transition. I remember her first birthday to first steps, talkin and jumpin down a flight of stairs my little dare-devil, she is not afraid to try new things dancin, singin , her poems and short stories are expression of her thought patterns of thinking outside of the box. A heart of gold but can set things correctly if need be...sista-girlfriend "Attitude" classy and not too ghetto LOL! She looks to find good in all people no matter the race,ethnic,nor religion they may be.....she's not naive about her surroundings nor judgmental of others.
My daughter has been speaking Japanese since Pre-school. Her plans are to become an international interpreter for the Government. She is the 3rd baseman and the cleanup hitter for her High School softball team. Her Grade GPA is 3.2...it wo…

Toby Keith - Cryin' For Me (Wayman's Song)

Toby Keith song, "Cryin' For Me," a tribute to the late Wayman Tisdale. It's really a beautiful song and the video is terrific. Tobey Keith ft. Dave Koz, Marcus Miller and Arthur Thompson - which begins with the outgoing message from Tisdale's answering machine.

Makes us miss Wayman even more. Take a look below.

"Cryin for Me"
Got the news on Friday morning
But a tear I couldn't find
You showed me how I am supposed to live
Now you showed me how to die
I was lost til Sunday morning
I woke up to face my fear
While writing you this goodbye
song I found a tear

I'm going to miss that smile
I'm going to miss you my friend
Even though it hurts the way it ended up
I'd do it all again

So play it sweet in heaven
Cause that's right where you want to be
I'm not cryin cause I feel so sorry for you
I am cryin for me

I got up and dialed your number
Your voice came on the line
That old familiar message
I've heard a thousand times
It just …

Temptation will always be out there....Yes or No

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Temptation will always be out there, whether you look for it, or not. Will you be interested in other men/women after you got married? Chances are "yes, it is likely to happen". Will you regret getting married to him/her at some point? Yes, specially in difficult times. But you've made a choice. When you choose him/her to be your husband/wife you say "this is the man/woman I want to spend my life with, no matter what. I choose him/her and renounce to any other that may appear in my life in the future". Temptations will happen, difficult times will come, and you have to learn how to overcome those and stay faithful to your choices. Most of all, to your promise. No one is saying it is easy, but this is exactly the point: you need to learn how to be strong to full fill your promise to your husband/wife and to God. After you are under the bonds of matrimony you and your husband/wife become one under God's eyes. You are a family now and it is your duty to keep i…

The Les Brown Story

Les has had no formal education beyond high school, but with persistence and determination he has initiated and continued a process of unending self-education which has distinguished him as an authority on harnessing human potential. Les Brown's passion to learn and his hunger to realize greatness in himself and others helped him to achieve greatness.

Is there a difference between a Farmer and a Gardener?

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By Gloria Whyte

A farmer by definition is a person who cultivates the land. A gardener by definition is a person who cultivates seedlings and their offspring for growth and future transplantation. To cultivate means the preparation process of working the land/soil in order to raise crops/plants. So why do I care about a farmer or a gardener? Sounds as though the farmer and the gardener do the same thing, they both cultivate. But believe me there is a difference and it is a big one, the difference between the farmer and the gardener is what they cultivate, how they cultivate and what happens to what is cultivated.
Let us start with what they cultivate. Are you a crop or a plant? Is the person giving you guidance a farmer or a gardener?
Are you being raised for just a season or are you being raised to be transplanted. Crops are cultivated for consumption and plants are cultivated for growth and transplanting. Plants are raised to be transplanted into pots, moving from …

Will's Wisdom

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Happy Thanksgiving to all you...Good People. Please be Thankful for what you have not for what you want -
WANT to make a difference. WANT to achieve. WANT to mean something to the world. WANT your presence to elevate others......
When you're a Great Giver - You'll be a GREAT receiver of God's Blessings!

May Day Man Hit, Down But Not Out...

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T he day a man loses his job is among the most stressful of his life. Sudden unemployment can turn a man’s world upside down, influencing every aspect of his life, including his relationship. Even the sturdiest of romantic bonds can be shaken when a man finds himself among the jobless. The stress caused by unemployment can eat away at a relationship like cancer. And though every guy hopes that his partner will actually help him weather the storm of unemployment, it’s also not uncommon for a guy to feel that having another person to worry about, and another stressed out individual in the house, just makes matters worse. Seeing how the economy is still in the tank, we suspect more than a few guys out there are wondering how to handle unemployment and relationships, so we’ve put together this list of strategies to help men get through this difficult chapter in their lives.

Don’t mope.....
Losing your job can be a devastating experience. Anger, fear and nervousne…

Don't be afraid to ask yourself....

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"Don't be afraid to ask yourself, "What am I missing? What do I not know yet?" All generalizations are false - including this one - yet we keep making generalizations. We create images - graven ones that can't be changed. We dismiss or accept people, products, programs and propaganda according to the labels they come under. We know a little about something, and we treat it like we know everything". Learn to be more discerning! It's easy to make decisions based on what you know, but there are always things you don't know. It's easy to choose a direction based on what you see, but what don't you see? We learn only when we're willing to ask, "What am I missing?" That question causes you, and those around you, to stop and think. It's easy to see what's obvious, but asking tough questions brings to the surface things that aren't obvious. Not asking questions is to assume (you get what you assume) that a proje…

Childish Behavior in our Marriages and Relationships

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This article is designed to slap a reality check into the hearts and minds of every couple that has experienced the same childish behavior.
Let’s start with the sisters first. You know you have flower girl tendencies:

* When you get upset with your husband when he’s RIGHT, but instead of admitting it, you continue to argue your point just to get on his nerves. Get somewhere and sit down, l’il girl!
* If you make more money or do something better than your husband, you rub it in his face by singing, “anything you can do, I can do better…I can do anything better than you!” The ring bearer says, “No you can’t!” You make it worse by responding, “Yes, I can!” Then you end up in a perpetual “CAN’T!!!” “CAN, TOO!!!” dialog.
* If you see your husband’s clothes all over the floor, and instead of picking them up, folding them and putting them away, you set them in a pile on the other side of the room for him to wade through whenever it’s convenient.
* If you resort to throwing insult…

Caring enough to confront someone you love....and loving them enough to forgive.

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I love you.
If I Love you I must tell you the Truth.
I want your love.
I want your truth.
Love me enough to tell me the Truth.

Positive word: Caring , Negative word: Confronting.....Caring enough to confront someone you love....and loving them enough to forgive.
Together they provide the balance of love and power which lead to effective human relationships. The more common practice is to keep these distinct and separate.
There is a time for caring...There is a time for confronting.....Each in its owns time.
Care when caring is called for, confront when confrontation is required. Care fronting is the way to communicate with both impact and respect , with truth and love.
Speaking the truth in love is the way to mature right relationships. Care fronting has a unique view of conflict. Conflict is natural, normal , neutral and sometimes even delightful. It can turn into painful or disastrous ends,but it doesn't need to. Conflict is neither good nor bad, right nor wrong. Conflict simply is. How …

Derrion Alberts..... will be able to take a bow on the world’s stage.

Derrion Alberts..... will be able to take a bow on the world’s stage.
This story is so sad because it was just so senseless and brutal. How can you beat someone to death who’s posed no threat to you whatsoever? I pray for Derrion’s family and the families of the “lost boys” who committed this crime, I hope they will raise the rest of their children better than they raise these. I just can not understand why these things are still happening. And I don’t want to hear any excuses about poverty, because being poor has no bearing on knowing right from wrong.
I don’t blame this on music or even where they lived. Sorry, but I'm looking at the rearing. If I have to bust my butt to raise my kids so can everyone else (by all means necessary?) My kids were not out trying to start fights and being a menace. I am tired of mothers denying the fathers visitation (I don’t like that word) to their children because he did not pay his child support. We have discussed this before and a woman can’t rais…

Surrender or Submitting: To commit to the consideration or judgment of another...

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"I" or "Me” thinking is what we as individuals bring to our relationship. It is our independent selfish way of thinking. We are not stating that it is a bad way of thinking, works ok for single life but can bring ‘issues’ to a two person relationship. We transition from “I” to “We” by putting the needs of the relationship a head of our individual needs. Remember when the relationship wins you as an individual win.
Think about the marriage first and surrendering will become easier. Since men and women have different needs they surrender differently. Surrendering comes from the unconditional love of each partner.
Our values and our upbringing are ours and in most cases different from our partners this is the cause of many of the struggles in the relationship. Give the relationship a set of values and make the relationship a priority and surrendering will be come natural.That you love your partner enough to yield your “I”ndividual desires for the “We” commitment. To yield …

The Casket Dropped–Profile of a True Marriage

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by Harriet HairstonPatrick Swayze and Lisa Niemi were neither black, nor did they have kids, but their marriage exemplifies just about everything a loving relationship should entail. Upon hearing of Mr. Swayze’s death, so many stories arose about his life and accomplishments. Most of the time, you find that a person is just as inept in their personal lives as they are successful in their professional endeavors. Yet in the case of Mr. Swayze and his wife Lisa Niemi, I found that they had their cake and were able to eat it, too…all the way until his casket dropped.They had:Longevity: They met when she was 16 years old and a dance student of his mother’s. They were married three years later on June 12, 1975. My own parents were married on July 5, 1975, so I wasn’t even thought of then!Friendship: He stated that “we were friends for a long time before we became lovers. We even lived and slept togther for a year before we had sex. That wasn’t easy.” I’m sure it wasn’t, but after …

SOME THOUGHTS ON CONFLICT RESOLUTION....

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Arguments between spouses accomplish a lot…most of it destructive. Yet, many couples find themselves caught in a vicious cycle of rehashing the same fights over and over. Often this causes one or both of the individuals to withdraw in order to avoid the pain and anger involved.
Overtime, communication breaks down and really serious problems may crop up in the marriage.

The problem with arguments is that they are thought of as contests. Someone must win and someone must lose. But, when there is a winner and loser…both the husband and wife lose because someone is going to feel defeated and resentful.
There is another way.
By learning some basic conflict resolution techniques, couples can put aside the need to “win” an argument and instead learn resolve their disputes in a manner acceptable to both parties. It is possible to learn conflict resolution just as it is possible to learn anything else.

THE KEY
The key to conflict resolution is not …

Returns from investing in your marriage, ….PRICELESS.

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EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love - because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened to you. Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies,…

Whyte’s Bio

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Marcus and Gloria Whyte is a happily committed married unit of more than 22 years. They are the proud parents of 2 teenaged children; Franklin 18 and India 16.
Lifelong residents of Akron, Ohio, the Whyte’s believe that service to others is the center focus of their ministry. Marcus and Gloria are committed to mentoring couples who are looking for assistance in growing and strengthening their relationship.
The Whyte’s bring a strong background of organizational and consulting skills to the table. These skills are influenced from the Whyte’s vast knowledge in the computer operations and the information technologies area.

Marcus and Gloria are the co-owners of G.I.F.T. Transportation Services, L.L.C. – a non emergency ambulatory service for the elderly and disabled members of our community.

We are Facilitator Trainers for Basic Training for couples, this is the joint effort of Dr. Rozario Slack http://www.rozarioslack.com and Nisa Islam Muhammad http://www.weddedblissinc.com. We have joi…

The Family Stone | Mahogany Butterfly.com

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The Family Stone | Mahogany Butterfly.com

The Family Stone
Husband and wife team of Black and Married with Kids.com dismiss negative notions about marriage and family in Black America. by Arlice Nichole
With an alarming divorce rate in the African American community, higher than that of Whites and Latinos, coupled with a rapidly increasing number of couples who want to call it quits but aren’t able to with the cost of divorce, and because they can’t afford to give up the financial security that the other provides, it’s no surprise that negative attitudes exist about an institution that is supposed to be so very beautiful. But even with these frightening realities regarding marital commitment, the fact is successful Black marriages and families do exist and thrive. And Lamar and Ronnie Tyler, the happily married duo behind the creation of the popular and nationally recognized blog Black and Married with Kids.comproves it! The site has been spotlighted by Essence.com, The Russ Par Morni…

"The Healing Power of Exercise."

Exercising to help the pain - that doesn't just work for a hurting back. It works for a hurting heart. This could be a stretch of your life that's particularly painful. You're hurting from a tragedy, a broken relationship, maybe financial struggles, medical battles, some new wounds, or some old wounds. And just like me with an aching back, you're seeking some comfort. But just like me, you might find it, not by trying to get comfortable, but by going out and exercising spiritually.

Here's the prescription. It's from our word for today from the Word of God in Proverbs 11:25 . "A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed." Now, God says something refreshing happens to your spirit when you reach out to refresh others. And that's the kind of exercise that helps a hurting heart - doing something for someone else who's in need.

Is that what you feel like doing? No way. When you're hurting, you feel like withdra…

22 Years of Marriage..."To The Same Woman!"

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Happy 22nd Marriage Anniversary to the sexiest woman on this here Earth!

My "Queen Gloria"....25 years ago I saw this lady sitting over in a corner minding her own business in a rehearsal gospel singing group name "Essence of Christ Singers". I asked another member of the group who was that over in the corner What is her name? The next words out of my mouth was that is my future wife. There was a six years different in age, which was a concern for her and her family for that matter. Of course, a younger man older lady she thought I was a young guy playing games I can understand that thinking look back at it now telling someone you just met that they were your wife. As confident and talented that I was...I'm afraid to share that I chased her around for three years showing her that I was and still on point to win her love for me just,like the first time I laid eyes on her(corny but true). Ok, you want to know what I said to her to win the Gift o…

Power of Music...For Those Who Love the Low End from a Bassist

Music, as an art form, moves man to delight in the emotions and passions which the music evokes. The repeated listening to a certain kind of music becomes habitual in the strictest sense of the word: the emotions clothe themselves with a habit, either a virtue or a vice, according to the quality of the music one habitually listens to. In this regard Aristotle wrote: ". . . emotions of any kind are produced by melody and rhythm; therefore by music a man becomes accustomed to feeling the right emotions; music has thus the power to form character, and various kinds of music based on the various modes, may be distinguished by their effects on character — Music can imitate a reasonable, ordered, honorable, virtuous emotion, in which case music helps dispose man to the virtuous and honorable ordering of his life. However, music can also imitate an unreasonable, disordered, dishonorable, vicious emotion. The old saying that music calms the savage beast may be true of old mus…