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The Beginning Journey…Until Our Path Crossed

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Even in our formative years, before introduction, our pictures can attest that our backgrounds were similar. We were just two little people on a path that came together at a point of destiny.Early in our relationship, this journey that we now share never crossed our minds. We were like most couples just trying to do us, working and living our lives but through understanding we came to find that doing us is loving, sharing, caring and helping others come to the knowledge of what a Healthy Marriage is....Marcus and Gloria Whyte Trainer/FacilitatorFor Healthy Marriages©We offer relationship insight to couples who are looking to commit to each other in order to come to the understanding that a marriage is a collaboration of 2 hearts that join 2gether 2 overcome the obstacles of life & create an atmosphere of shared pleasure & deeper love. Please visit our site andbecome a member of For Healthy Marriages© : http://forhealthymarriages.ning.com/The purpose is to re-engage and educat…

Acts of Service ……Men is your voice being heard and understood?

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By Marcus Whyte23As I watched my queen/wife greet people this past Sunday at church, I thought about how people relate to her touches and hugs of affection.I often heard people say how her hugs affected them. I have watched in the past as people would sometimes cry, laugh, melt or just fill up and receive this love that she was spreading. But I would often wonder why I did not receive the same type of interaction from her when she hugged me.Over time I realized that it was me that stopped the hug interaction or should I say my body stopped the interaction. I came to realize that every time my wife would ask me for a hug once we touched I would be in need of sexually healing; we know how Marvin Gaye said it.This struggle to just hug took me to a journey of discovery.Through this journey of discovery I came to learn that each person has a language of love that is tied to their personality. I actually learned that there are five love languages and that everyone gives and receives love ou…

Can your Marriage survive an “OUT”?

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While at our 16 year daughter’s softball game I started to think about the rules of engagement and what happened to the girls when the umpire called them out. In a loud voice the umpire would say “out”, “strike” or “safe”. When he uttered the word “safe” the girls would cheer with excitement. When he uttered the word “strike” you would see the girls buckle down and get focused but when the umpire would say, in most cases with force, the word ‘out’, you would see the girls countenance change. The girls wanted to win and being called out would only hamper their cause. With that frame of mind, I came to ponder the following two questions: When does an out really matter, and, Can your marriage survive an out?By definition the word out means: to the end or conclusion; to a final decision or resolution: So to me the only time an out really matters in softball, is when the team you are rooting for is behind in the ninth inning and it is their last at bat. Prior to that last at bat anything i…

As a part of our "For Real Solutions".....

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As a part of our 'For Real Solutions', we desire to impart 'Healthy', Positive concepts and ideas to those engaged in a relational environment. Please inquiry below to see our profile and additional contact sources for current and future networking info regarding any area of interest shown. Marcus and Gloria Whyte
Trainer / Facilitator
For Healthy Marriages© Professional Training & Coaching industry
September 2007 – Present The Healthy Marriage program is an eight session basic training class for couples that are married, engaged to be married and or dating. The program’s purpose is to re-engage and educate couples about the benefits of marriage and not just marriage but a healthy marriage. As facilitators my queen (Gloria) and I are committed to mentoring couples who are looking for assistance in growing and strengthening their relationship. We are Facilitators/ Trainers in a "Basic Training For Couples" program which is designed to sustain healthy r…

Marriage and the Economy---Can’t Buy Me Love

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The other day I heard a report on the economy where the new jobs created numbers were being reported. Everyone was excited about the 162,000 jobs that had been created even though the unemployment rate had not dropped and the majority of the jobs being talked about were temporary and seasonal.The census helped 2010 in a temporary way. This news was very distributing to me. So distributing that I sat down and wrote a letter to President Obama, have not mailed yet but I did write it. The letter basically informs President Obama on the state of my America. As I wrote, all I could see was that middle class Americans like me and many others would never be the same. America was changing, not the President’s fault but changing still the same.My spirit was broken by what many couples have to face; so I started looking up statics to see how finances really impacted marriages. I also looked up these numbers for my own research because Marcus and I noticed that when our local area was hit hard b…

Surrender or Submitting: To commit to the consideration or judgment of another...

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"I" or "Me” thinking is what we as individuals bring to our relationship. It is our independent selfish way of thinking. We are not stating that it is a bad way of thinking, works ok for single life but can bring ‘issues’ to a two person relationship.We transition from “I” to “We” by putting the needs of the relationship a head of our individual needs. Remember when the relationship wins you as an individual win.Think about the marriage first and surrendering will become easier.Since men and women have different needs they surrender differently. Surrendering comes from the unconditional love of each partner.
Our values and our upbringing are ours and in most cases different from our partners this is the cause of many of the struggles in the relationship. Give the relationship a set of values and make the relationship a priority and surrendering will be come natural.That you love your partner enough to yield your “I”ndividual desires for the “We” commitment…

Then and Now where is your love?

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The other day my husband Marcus was looking for pictures of himself and me so he could load them onto our website, during the process of helping him look I decided to go through our wedding album. Looking at the pictures that we took on that day I was drawn to one that showed me and him embraced in a lovingly glance. This glance was powerful and it made me think wow, look at how I am looking at my boo. What was even funnier or should I say crazier is that the set of pictures Marcus was looking at, which were from our most recent family pictures, had a picture of me looking at him with the same embracing glance. Wow I thought to myself 20+ years later and my look which expresses the way that I feel towards that man has not changed. First of all let me say that the way I feel is truly a God thing. Marcus and I have been through tough times and even today we are facing challenges that we would have never thought we would be facing at this point in our lives but what I can …