1) It's not about you - The world no longer revolves around you. Get out of that 'single' mindset. You have an opportunity to create a legacy.
2) You're sabotaging your success when all you look out for is you.
3) Find a goal you can work on together.
4) 80/20 - Stop focusing on the 20% you don't like.
5) Don't be a slave, but find ways to serve your partner.
6) If you did it with your spouse you'd be happy as well - Cut that extra-marital nonsense.
Thanks ET =)