Whyte23....Welcome To My World!

As I watched the NBA post season, being from Akron,Oh. I was rooting for the hometown favorite to go all the way and bring home the title. As I watched in detail, game 5 of the second round, I was troubled by the play of my hometown favorite. I thought to myself that something just seemed to not be right with him during this game. Now there are rumors flying around and I am not here to talk about those rumors, but the nature of his game was different and it made me think about what takes you out of your game? Our hometown sports hero is no doubt one of the best players around. He can change the outcome of a game just by stepping onto the court, but in game 5 he was not really present and he could not make it go his way in game 6. It’s sad that his season is now over. I began to think about how his performance relates to me as a husband and father. In this role I should have the same impact on my family, as my star player does when his game is on and popping. I should set my fami...

Remember that rumor about Bobby Brown being dead--not true. The pop singer is very much alive, in love and engaged. Brown popped the question to his manager-girlfriend Alicia Etheridge with ( 11-month-old son Cassius ), while on stage at a concert at Metro Park in Jacksonville, Florida. And the crowd went wild with enthusiasm. [ People ] {Photo Courtesy of Google Image} Blessing to Bobby and Alicia I hope they make it everyone deserves a chance whether it there second, third or even tenth time at happiness so I hope Bobby takes his and proves to himself first and then the rest concerning all the haters whom only remembers all the wrong, bad-boy image and self destructive acts he's done to himself. As for our own Whitney ( troubled 15-year marriage ) she could have left Bobby long before she did she choose to stay with him... until...

August 29, of this year (2010), my queen and I will be married for twenty three years. As I look back on that day, I smile as I remember how my queen laughed as she told me that she could tell how nervous I was by the way I repeated my vows. She said as I spoke my vows my tone became louder and louder, this is how she came to the conclusion that I was nervous. I personally don’t believe that I was nervous at all. I was and remain the same today, confident and sure regarding the decision that I was making. I can honestly say that this statement is one of fact because I feel stronger and more assured today regarding my decision to marry…even more than I did on my wedding day. Thinking back I start to ponder my vows and how they have been tested and tried. What did we declare on that day before God and man? We declared to be together for richer or for poorer, for better or for worst, in sickness and in health, till death us do part. Funny but most of us only hear, receive and live half...

By Whyte23 As a whole I and my spouse come from the belief that relationships are everything. We belief that the emotional support along with the give and take that we offer each other, works together to form a healthy relationship. What qualifies as being a healthy relationship? Does calling you my friend qualify us as part of a healthy relationship? The friendship question is one that I often struggle with because my 18 year old son quantifies his every request for permission to do something or go somewhere with, “ me and my friends.” As soon as I hear the words me and my friend leave his lips, my response is “these may be associates of yours but they are not your friends.” I then start to go down my list of character traits that should be found in a friendship. Traits that would, in my mind, be generated within a healthy relationship. What I have come to find, in most cases, my son’s friendships/relationships are what I would classify as ‘One Way Relationships.’ Here’s an ex...

Even in our formative years, before introduction, our pictures can attest that our backgrounds were similar. We were just two little people on a path that came together at a point of destiny. Early in our relationship, this journey that we now share never crossed our minds. We were like most couples just trying to do us, working and living our lives but through understanding we came to find that doing us is loving, sharing, caring and helping others come to the knowledge of what a Healthy Marriage is.... Marcus and Gloria Whyte Trainer/Facilitator For Healthy Marriages© We offer relationship insight to couples who are looking to commit to each other in order to come to the understanding that a marriage is a collaboration of 2 hearts that join 2gether 2 overcome the obstacles of life & create an atmosphere of shared pleasure & deeper love. Please visit our site and become a member of For Healthy Marriages© : http://forhealthymarriages.ning.com/ The purpose is ...

By Marcus Whyte23 As I watched my queen/wife greet people this past Sunday at church, I thought about how people relate to her touches and hugs of affection.   I often heard people say how her hugs affected them. I have watched in the past as people would sometimes cry, laugh, melt or just fill up and receive this love that she was spreading. But I would often wonder why I did not receive the same type of interaction from her when she hugged me.   Over time I realized that it was me that stopped the hug interaction or should I say my body stopped the interaction. I came to realize that every time my wife would ask me for a hug once we touched I would be in need of sexually healing; we know how Marvin Gaye said it.   This struggle to just hug took me to a journey of discovery. Through this journey of discovery I came to learn that each person has a language of love that is tied to their personality. I actually learned that there are five love languages and that everyone gives and...

While at our 16 year daughter’s softball game I started to think about the rules of engagement and what happened to the girls when the umpire called them out. In a loud voice the umpire would say “out”, “strike” or “safe”. When he uttered the word “safe” the girls would cheer with excitement. When he uttered the word “strike” you would see the girls buckle down and get focused but when the umpire would say, in most cases with force, the word ‘out’, you would see the girls countenance change. The girls wanted to win and being called out would only hamper their cause.   With that frame of mind, I came to ponder the following two questions: When does an out really matter, and, Can your marriage survive an out? By definition the word out means: to the end or conclusion; to a final decision or resolution: So to me the only time an out really matters in softball, is when the team you are rooting for is behind in the ninth inning and it is their last at bat. Prior to that last at bat anyt...